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One year sober, how I managed to quit alcohol

Today marks one year since I quit alcohol. To make it make sense, I will start from the beginning. I drank all sorts of booze while I was on campus. Most people have. From beer, wine, cheap and expensive spirits. You name it, I probably have drunk it, save for Konyagi. In summary, my relationship with the bottle started at a very tender age.
When I got into my young adult life, I kicked it up a notch. I was now consuming refined liquor, after all, I could now afford it. I had plenty of friends and there was always time to make merry.

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In 2020, last year, the pandemic happened, we needed to work from home. The only difference was, I had just gotten off a job and business was yet to fully pick up. To make it worse, in the industry I chose to venture into, most businesses were having massive lay-offs. Guess who was there for me through it all? You guessed it right, Mr. bottle. I would wake up, have breakfast, start having a drink at around 9 AM, blackout somewhere at 2 pm, wake up at 4 pm, cook lunch cum dinner, eat, and then back at it.

I was what is called a functioning alcoholic. You will agree with me, the joy that comes from you drinking by your lonesome is just profound. You get to blackout whenever, dress, however, watches whatever, and still help yourself to a clean toilet. That is what I then knew as a blissful life.

As we got to the end of June, I realized no matter how much I drank, I wasn’t getting high (read close to addiction). If anything, I would experience insomnia, my thinking process was slow, I would be more sluggish and not sleepy. That was my life until June 2020. I had five months of drinking alcohol.

In July, I hosted some now acquaintances of mine for one of their birthdays. The wine was served. It was exactly a week after that I was having a double shot of 18-year-old single malt whiskey when I turned to my neighbor and said, “This is my last drink”. He looked at me and said, “How many times have you said that before, wewe tukunywe.” I side-eyed him and moved on.

In July 2020, I woke up, made a hearty breakfast, and poured the last glass of liquor that I had into a glass. Switched off every electronic gadget that I had in the house and savored every sip knowing very well, it was my last.

The said last drink…

What made it easy.

  1. Grounding myself and eliminating any environment that would trigger the thirst. That was the pubs, friends’ houses, deleting drink delivery services, groups that would do an occasional drink meet-up. I cleaned house to matters pertaining to alcohol and its cousins except for sanitizers.
  2. Changed my friends: When you do an audit of your friends’ list you will realize who serves what purpose. Save to say, most of my friends at the time were “bottle friends”. We were compatible only with matters pertaining to booze. I had to cut them off. Nothing drastic just kept off.
  3. You are what you consume: I had to listen and watch movies, podcasts, and testimonials of people who became sober. Don’t get me wrong, I was not reliant on the bottle, but quitting was necessary.

Too much of everything is poisonous. Even when you overeat, you could easily become sick with IBS, Gastritis, etc… If you want to know how too much of anything is poisonous, read the article on How I overcame anxiety. The bible is clear about leaders who take wine (read alcoholic drinks), it recommends that we do not consume it. We are all leaders in one way or another. Parent to child, sibling-sibling, older to a younger friend, etc. Most people secretly look up to us.

It is not for kings, Lemuel—

    it is not for kings to drink wine,

    not for rulers to crave beer,

lest they drink and forget what has been decreed,

    and deprive all the oppressed of their rights.

Proverbs 31:4-5 (NIV Version)

Most people do not know their capacity. How much is too much. If you know your limit, kudos to you. During these drinking sprees, our sense of reasoning is usually distorted. We are not rational beings. My journey with alcohol was lovely, no regrets here. However, I am glad that I quit it when I did.

I now operate from a sober lense, still, hang out with my former drinking buddies and they have learnt to respect my choice of drink. I am not about to tell you to stop taking alcohol. It is a personal choice that can only come from within. I am simply here to let you know that, when you do get to make that decision, it can be done. It is a bumpy, rocky road but full of rewards.

Have a sober weekend,

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